BELIEVING YOU ARE A SEPARATE SELF - THAT ALONE IS SUFFERING 

Those who believe they are a separate self suffer a great deal.

When you believe that you are a separate self, distinct from everything else, you immediately feel disconnected from the world. You begin to believe: This is me. That is mine. That is not me. That is not mine. 

Where there is a "me," there is possession. Where there is possession, there is desire for what is not possessed—and that is the very definition of lack. As long as there is a sense of separation, there will be a sense of lack. And how can there be happiness in lack? Lack is suffering. It is because of this perceived separation that lack arises.
 
Lack in itself is suffering—not to mention the hopes that arise from finding something to fill the void, and the fears that follow from not being able to find it. Separation comes with lack, expectation, and fear.

Take for example the belief that loving someone will make me feel complete.

How can you ever be complete that way?
 
When the illusion of a “separate self” exists, lack is inevitable. Even when you are with the one you love, you are still two separate beings. You remain divided. So wholeness can never be experienced. When you’re apart, there is longing. When you’re together and they don’t meet your conditions, there is still lack.

That sense of lack gives rise to various forms of attachment and control, all trying to fix the feeling of deficiency. But these actions are rooted in the belief: I am separate from them. I need them to be happy.

So whatever you do only reinforces the mistaken belief—and lasting happiness remains out of reach.

The more you try to fix a separation that was never real to begin with, the more you reinforce the illusion that it is real—only creating more lack, more disappointment, more pain. If you have already assumed you are inherently lacking, how will you ever stop feeling that way?

How many love affairs will it take to fill that emptiness?

True wholeness will never come if you still believe in the existence of a separate self.
 
That belief is the very source of lack, and it will carry that sense of deficiency with you through countless lifetimes—even if you are reborn as a celestial god.

Therefore, only when you see the nature of the separate self, only when you recognize that it is a mere illusion, and realize who you truly are — realize your own natural, perfect state — will you find the fullness and unconditional happiness that’s always been here.

❤️
Trong Suot
(From the talk "Because I am always the one who comes later". Paragon Resort, Ba Vì, Hà Nội – April 27, 2022)

Music by: Nhu Hien

Translated by: Hong Minh Duc

The song helps elevate the listeners’ consciousness vibration to 70.100 Trong.